Divorce & Co-parenting coaching for moms
One-on-One Coaching
Your lawyer isn't trained to deal with your emotional trauma of divorce. They are not there to hold your hand, but they are there to drive the divorce forward.
Your therapist may have tools to help you deal with your own healing, but doesn't have enough information on the boundaries you should set and the ones that could be detrimental for your legal case.
That's where a divorce coach comes in. I can help you through the emotional turmoil of divorce AND help you create divorce and co-parenting strategies so this divorce doesn't take over your life.
Every divorce case is different, and I want to help you make it through your divorce keeping your sanity, helping your strengthen your bond with your kids, and thriving beyond this traumatic event in your life.
Some topics we can cover in your
divorce and co-parenting session...
Before you leave your marriage...
Should I stay or should I go?
Maybe you are wondering if you have enough reasons to leave your marriage and you can't talk to your friends or family about it? Let's talk it through. And the short answer is, yes, you can leave for any reason at all!
Safety plan
As a Domestic Abuse Counselor, my main priority is always that you and your kids are safe. This includes your safety when you are still in your relationship, when you are leaving your marriage, and after divorce.
Preparing to leave
I always say, you want to prepare for the worst and hope for the best. But do you know what the number 1 thing is that clients say? "I didn't think he would take it this far!" Remember, divorce can bring out the worst in people and you have to be prepared with all of the documents you need to get your divorce done.
During your divorce...
Divorce Strategy
Divorce is a highly emotional time, and we often end up behaving in ways we are not super proud of. But more importantly, that behavior can sometimes come and bite us in the behind later down the road. We need to have strategy in place to get divorced and to keep ourselves out of the court in the future.
Understanding the court system
Getting divorced is often the first time we are coming in touch with the court and it can be overwhelming and extremely scary. Let me help walk you through the legal jargon, what exactly awaits you, and prepare you for going to court without shitting your pants.
Picking your battles
In an ideal world, there isn't any fighting but a deeply respectful untangling of your intimate relationship during divorce. In the worst case, divorce turns into a war.
You won't win every battle, and not even every battle is worth fighting! Whatever kind of divorce you are facing, we can work together on understanding what is important to you and what is worth fighting or nicely pushing for.
Throughout your co-parenting journey...
Co-parenting help
Whether you are co-parenting, parallel parenting, or just trying your best to keep your kids alive in the craziness of a divorce, I can help you to make it better, to make sure you don't lose custody of your kids, and to help strengthen your bond between you and your kids so they don't need to spend a lifetime recovering from their parents' divorce!
Custody plans
Most states and countries require very little details in this custody plan, such as what days the kids are where, how holidays split, and how medical decisions made. A judge doesn't know you and what your family life looks like. So you need to be proactive and put everything into your custody plan that is important for your kids to thrive. Medications that your kids are on? Special activities they do every day - no matter what parent they are with? Daily phone calls when the kids are with their other parent? We can include it all in a custody plan specifically tailored to your family!
Amicable parenting agreements
If you are in a place where you and you ex are putting your kids first, then let's just take a moment and celebrate that - because that is rare! I am so proud of you! Now let's write a parenting agreement together that you can both fall back on when little disagreements may arise so you don't have to drag each other back to court but instead can continue the amicable vibe for the rest of your kids' childhoods and beyond.
Finding yourself again...
Regain your energy
I posted a video on TikTok a few months ago and it has had over 50K views so far. This video talked about how exhausted you are when you are getting divorced, and it resonated with thousands of people!
There is an explanation why you're so exhausted, and that means there is also a way out of this exhaustion and to regain your energy. Let me help you!
Move beyond the trauma
Trauma is a word we all throw around but what is it? Trauma is a distressing and disturbing experience. The impacts can linger when we don't have the support to help us process this experience. Well, your marriage may have been traumatic (and no, just because he didn't hit you doesn't mean it was all great!). And divorce often adds another layer of divorce because you feels o alone in it all. Let's slowly move beyond the trauma so you can thrive!
Rebuild your life
Divorce changes your entire life in an instant! Your home might change when you move out of your martial home. You might move to a new neighborhood and with that your community changes. Some of your friends may turn their back on you and you have find new supportive friends. You may need to go back to work after being a stay-at-home mom for years or you may have to change careers to better support yourself and your kids. There are so many changes to your life, and we can slowly rebuild your life layer by layer so you can have the life you always dreamed of!
